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+title: "Saying “Put Some Clothes On” to a Woman at Work"
+source: "https://medium.com/the-human-side-of-work/put-some-clothes-on-1672347d11a6"
+author:
+  - "[[Victoria Corindi 🌻]]"
+published: 2024-04-29
+created: 2024-10-29
+description: "It seemed like every time we sat down to our weekly status meeting in the glass-walled conference room, she said something about how freezing she was. At least once a week her wardrobe consisted of a…"
+tags:
+  - "clippings"
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+## Is what my co-worker said harassment or hilarious?
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+![Victoria Corindi 🌻](https://miro.medium.com/v2/resize:fill:88:88/1*heBX-PvOHhfkWlNqqkrJ5Q.png)
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+](https://medium.com/@victoriacorindi?source=post_page---byline--1672347d11a6--------------------------------)
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+[
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+![The Human Side of Work](https://miro.medium.com/v2/resize:fill:48:48/1*IT3nQfZ5i49aW1iN5sw_1w.png)
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+](https://medium.com/the-human-side-of-work?source=post_page---byline--1672347d11a6--------------------------------)
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+![](https://miro.medium.com/v2/resize:fit:700/0*5ix_5at4v5RdQYrb)
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+Photo by [Dane Deaner](https://unsplash.com/@danedeaner?utm_source=medium&utm_medium=referral) on [Unsplash](https://unsplash.com/?utm_source=medium&utm_medium=referral)
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+Rosalee had been complaining about the temperature in the office for months.
+
+It seemed like every time we sat down to our weekly status meeting in the glass-walled conference room, she said something about how freezing she was.
+
+There’s no question that our office was chilly.
+
+Even in the heat of summer, I wore long sleeves to keep myself warm.
+
+I also have a sweater that I keep in my office and I frequently put it on.
+
+Rosalee wore sleeveless tops and skirts.
+
+I’ve never seen her wear long sleeves, pants, or a jacket, even in the winter.
+
+At least once a week her wardrobe consisted of a summer dress made of silk or rayon with barely any fabric at all.
+
+What she wore wasn’t revealing, there just wasn’t much of it.
+
+Her laundry loads must be light, I thought.
+
+As one who never makes comments on women’s clothes in the workplace or otherwise, I bit my tongue when she voiced her desire to increase the temperature on the office’s thermostat.
+
+It seemed silly to keep complaining when the fix was as simple as putting on a sweater and everyone else was fine.
+
+Richard had joined our team as a project manager about a month prior.
+
+I’d noticed his face when Rosalee complained.
+
+He wasn’t annoyed or dismissive, he was amused.
+
+As he started the meeting that Monday, Rosalee took her seat in a wisp of a dress.
+
+She wrapped her arms around her body and visibly shivered.
+
+Locking eyes with Richard when he welcomed the team, Rosalee said, “I’m freezing. When is someone going to do something about this?”
+
+==“It would help if you put some clothes on,” he replied.==
+
+Silence.
+
+You could hear a pin drop in the room.
+
+We all shifted in our seats. I was sure I heard someone chuckle under their breath. The colleague next to me coughed.
+
+Waiting to see how Rosalee would respond, we were on pins and needles.
+
+When she didn’t reply, but instead kept her eyes on the table, Richard continued the meeting.
+
+After that day, Rosalee made no change to her wardrobe, but she did stop complaining.
+
+She never brought up being cold or the temperature in the office again.
+
+What I wonder is if Richard should have said what he did.
+
+Were his comments rude, inappropriate, and shaming?
+
+Or hilarious.
+
+Read about my responsibility in my Gen Z daughter’s entitlement:
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+Or what’s stopping me from suing my employer: